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    April 29

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          悲伤的世界里,学会遗忘,也学会把悲伤幻化成另外一种希望,无论失去和离开,生活都在继续,曾经的美好时光已经完整保留在了抽屉里,继续生活下去,而这些悲伤的事情,或许只是有点苦涩的幸福。

    April 28

    【转载】一位美国青年的忠告

          出于他自己在中国的所见所闻所感,这位美国青年写道:“近来发生的一切并不能带给中国尊敬或荣耀。相反地,在外人眼里,这些行为使中国看上去既不开化又粗鲁无礼(uncivilized and brutish)。我想帮助我的中国朋友,尤其是那些旅居海外的人,帮助他们学习如何恰当的处理西方的政治争议,这样他们就能更好的让外人了解他们的祖国,修补中国的国际形象……衷心祝愿北京奥运会成功!”
          在建议开始之前,他说“我有些担心我所写的东西有点儿‘训导’的味道”( I'm a little concerned that what I wrote might seem patronizing. )
          下面就是他的详细建议,共五段十八条:

    一、如果你看到西方媒体的反华失实报道:
    1. 给该节目编辑写一封有礼貌的信,指出问题所在,用逻辑来支撑你的观点。(要文明的体面的表达你的观点,给编辑写信是个好办法——而且你的信可以被免费发表出来,让更多人看到)
    DO write a polite letter to the editor to point out the problem, giving a logical argument to support your position. (Letters to the editor are a respectable, civilized way to express your opinion and you can get it published for free)

    2. 如果某些照片或视频片段是错误的或具误导性的,自己制作一段冷静的、有信息含量的视频解释为什么那些东西是错的。(人们愿意观看冷静理性的视频并从中学习)
    DO make a calm, informative video that explains why a photograph or media clip is wrong or misleading. (People are willing to listen to and learn from calm, reasonable videos)

    3. 不要写怒气冲冲的、丧失理性的充满了个人攻击和共产主义政治魔咒的抗议信。(如果你的信怒气冲冲,人们不会尊重你的观点。人身攻击时歇斯底里的表现,会被置之不理。共产话语的特点一目了然,如果人们认为你只是简单的重复政府的宣传的话,没人会搭理你)
    DON'T write an angry, irrational protest letter with an argument based upon ad hominem attacks and Communist political mantras. (If you write an angry letter, your opinion will not be respected. Ad hominem attacks (irrelevant criticism of a person's character) will be rejected as desperate. Communist language is very easy to spot, and people will disregard you if they think you are simply repeating government propaganda.)

    4. 不要制作怒气冲冲毫无逻辑的视频,目的就想告诉西方观众他们是白痴。(如果一个人试图通过侮辱你的方式纠正你,你一般很难接受,尤其这种纠正还毫无逻辑可言,这段YOUTUBE上的视频就是绝佳的反面教材,http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=x9QNKB34cJo。它不止侮辱了观众,还大肆宣扬一些毫无根据和逻辑的论断,比如CIA现在还在支持达赖喇嘛。)
    DON'T make a video that makes angry, illogical statements and tells the Western viewer he is an idiot. (It is difficult to accept correction from a person who insults you, especially if he does it illogically. This video on YouTube is a perfect example of what NOT to do: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=x9QNKB34cJo. It insults the viewer and makes unsupported and illogical claims, such as saying the CIA still provides support to the Dalai Lama.)

    5. 对那些进行了不实报道的媒体,一不要呼吁禁止,二不要暴力攻击。(有一点很重要,西方媒体并不受政府掌控,所以不要太把它们的错误和偏见当回事儿。保护言论自由同样要保护那些错误和不公正的言论,为使我们免受政府暴政之害,记住这一点很重要)
    DON'T call for bans or violent attacks against publications or broadcasters who make unfair statements. (It is very important to remember that since Western media are not controlled by the government, their errors and biases should not be taken so seriously. Freedom of speech even covers speech that is unfair or wrong; this is an important protection against government tyranny.)

    二. 如果一个外国人和你在藏藏问题上意见不一致:
    6. 尊重人们不同的文化,知道他的政治观点和道德观念与你不同。(举个例子,美国人通常对各种“独立”运动都抱积极态度,因为他们认为今天美国的好日子完全归功于美国的独立。还有,别国的人通常对政府抱有更多的怀疑,尤其是对中国中央政府这样的极权政府)
    DO respect the fact that the person's culture is different, and that he views political and moral issues differently. (For example,Americans often have a positive view of "independence" movements because they think of all the good things that came from American independence. Also, people from some countries are more suspicious of government, especially authoritarian governments like the central government of China)

    7. 请记住他没有长在中国,所以他接触的是关于藏藏的不同信息,其中的某些比你在中国得到的更准确。(在学习藏藏体验藏藏文化方面,中国人的优势在于你们有更多机会,而外国人的优势在于他们可以不受中国政府的宣传、审查和欺骗的干扰)
    DO realize that since he didn't grow up in China, he has access to different information about Tibet, some of which is more accurate than what you learned in China. (Chinese people have the advantage of having better opportunities to study and experience Tibet. Foreigners have the advantage of learning about Tibet without the interference of Chinese government propaganda, censorship, and deceit.)

    8. 与之友好的辩论,晓之以实动之以理。(可以争论,不要感情用事,最好是你们都能从中学习)
    DO have a friendly debate based on facts and logic. (Have a little debate. Don't get emotional. Hopefully you will both learn something.)

    9. 不要直斥别人所知的所有都是错的。(他对藏藏所知的一点一滴未必都是错的,善意的纠正比直斥别人无知更有礼貌)
    DO have a friendly debate based on facts and logic. (The person is probably not wrong about everything regarding Tibet, and it is more polite to gently correct than to tell him that he is ignorant)

    10. 当你手头没有证据时,就别把话说绝。(“藏藏过去是、现在是永远是中国的一部分”就是一个不完整的判断。对于藏藏与中国的联系你必须提供有说服力的历史证据)
    DON'T make absolute statements that you cannot readily support.("Tibet was, is and always will be a part of China" is not a complete argument. You must provide convincing historical evidence of the ties between Tibet and China.)

    三、如果一个中国人和你在藏藏问题上有分歧:
    11. 要尊重观点的不同,尝试理解为何有人与官方意见不同。(再次强调,我认为“不同”是最好的老师)
    DO talk about your differences of opinion respectfully and learn why some people disagree with the official Chinese position. (Once again, I think it is best to try to learn from someone with different opinions.)

    12. 不要直斥别人为“卖国贼”,并以暴力威胁对方及其家庭的安全。(与中国政府意见不同并不等于叛国,暴力或威胁使用暴力永不可恕!他们让中国看上去既不文明又凶巴巴。中国人对待他们同胞杜克大学的王千源的方式让我不寒而栗)
    DON'T denounce the person as a "traitor" and threaten him or his family with violence. (Disagreeing with the Chinese government is different from betraying China. Violence or threats of violence are never excusable, and they make China seem nasty and uncivilized. I was appalled at the way Grace Wang at Duke was treated by her fellow Chinese citizens.)

    四、如果抗议者干扰了奥运火炬传递:
    13. 对那些少数处于政治目的干扰火炬传递的人,要表达你的失望和不安。(你也许会发现很多人同样对这次奥运被如此政治化表示失望,但很多人也确实认为中国政府“出来混久了该还点儿了”)
    DO express your dismay that a small number of people have decided to disrupt the torch relay for political purposes. (You will probably find many people who are also disappointed that the Olympics have become so political—but many people also think that the Chinese government deserves to be embarrassed.)

    14. 问问你的朋友他们是否认为这种干扰有情可原,如果他们的观点与你不同,要在尊重的基础上互相讨论。(反正奥运已经被如此政治化了,正可以借此讨论这政治化应该到何为止?)
    DO ask your friends if they think these disruptions are acceptable,and have a respectful discussion if your opinions differ.Since the Olympics have already become so political, the attacks on the torch provide a good starting point to discuss what the limits to this politicization should be.

    15. 别把火炬受干扰当成那整个城市或国家不可饶恕的罪过。(火炬在巴黎和三藩受阻并不代表大部分法国人和美国人就是反华的,他们中的大多数根本就是漠不关心。没有确凿证据之前,也不能责怪法国和美国政府)
    DON'T behave as though disrupting the Olympic torch relay is an unforgivable sin on the part of an entire city or nation. (The fact that the torch relay was disrupted in Paris and San Francisco doesn't mean that most French or most Americans are anti-China. Most of them don't really care. You can't blame the French or American governments, either, without serious evidence.)

    16. 不要试图通过抵制和暴力骚乱“惩罚”外国公司。(为了她的某些民众所为就"惩罚"这个国家是错误的,抵制家乐福对家乐福影响有限但很可能伤害到其中中国员工的利益,以及在家乐福出售产品的中国公司的利益。在家乐福组织骚乱真的让中国看上去非常落后和愚蠢)
    DON'T try to "punish" foreign companies with boycotts and violent mobs.Not only is wrong to try to "punish" a country for an insult made by some of its citizens, boycotting Carrefour will not hurt Carrefour much and will mostly hurt Carrefour's Chinese employees, and the Chinese companies whose products are sold at Carrefour. Forming violent mobs at Carrefour makes China look really backward and stupid.

    五、如果某人侮辱了“中国”或“中国人民”:

    17. 当这人说“中国”或“中国人民”时,弄清楚他的意思是不是“中国中央政府”。(用“中国”指代“中国政府”的用法非常普遍,就像人们也常用“美国”指代“美国政府”一样。当西方人批评中国政府时他们并不是在批评全体中国人,他们知道中国人不能选择自己的政治领导人)
    DO think carefully about whether the person means "the Chinese central government" when he says "China" or "the Chinese." (It is very common to say "China" when speaking about the Chinese government, just like one would say "the US" when talking about the US government. Furthermore, when Westerners criticize China's government they are not
    blaming all Chinese; they realize that the Chinese people do not choose China's political leaders.)

    18. 对一个在很多事情上都习惯口出狂言的人,别把他当回事儿。(像Jack Cafferty,Lou Dobbs和Bill O'Reilly这些人,他们的职业就是口出狂言,要靠这个养家糊口。他们把那些愚蠢冒失的话挂在嘴边是为了吸引眼球。所以当他们对中国胡说八道时,最好的办法是置之不理而不是呼吁严惩。就因为某人在电视上说了些关于中国的蠢话就如此敏感,多荒唐啊!)
    DON'T feel like you need to respond if the person frequently makes outrageous statements on other topics. (People like Jack Cafferty, Lou Dobbs and Bill O'Reilly are paid to be provocative. They say silly, offensive things all the time because more people will watch them. So when they say something silly and offensive about China, the best response is to roll your eyes, not to call for severe punishment.Americans think it's ridiculous how sensitive the Chinese are about one man saying some dumb things about China on TV.)

    April 24

    不想抢篮板的控位不是好教练!Orz

    April 20

    黑暗中的火花

    他和她在我面前。
    任凭水泻的青丝在他指尖跳动,暗香,残留;
    觥筹交错间再次成为她的依靠,春风,拂面。

    她说:我们都是没有未来的人,没有付出,就没有背叛和伤害,我习惯了孤独;
    他说:现时所做的一切都将成为我们生命中美丽的回忆,过往矣,亦知爱过你。
    她说:我给不了你想要得到的,在我身边,你不会快乐;
    他说:嘿,你已经是一个奇迹,我能看到那不远的曙光。

    晨星若逝,骤雨将至。

    或许,就这样开始了,
    或许,就这样结束了。

    漫漫人生长卷中,每走过一个“他”或“她”,便要夹上一枚书签,
    但你永远不知道,当翻到哪页的时候,就会突想要一口气读完全部,
    奇妙所在。

    我们都希望成为彼此黑暗中的火花,
    即使,会因此褪变为生命中的过客,
    当真就好。

    Nevertheless, if I could rearrange the alphabet, I'd put U and I together.

    April 17

    心如止水

    不觉天上一日,人世已数载。
    绿袖兰裳,青丝红拂。风尘往事,飘然若逝。
    昔有宋世骚人柳永作《雨霖铃》一首,何顾我心!权且聊以自慰。

    寒蝉凄切,对长亭晚,骤雨初歇。

    都门帐饮无绪,方留恋处、兰舟催发。
    执手相看泪眼,竟无语凝噎。
    念去去千里烟波,暮霭沉沉楚天阔。
    多情自古伤离别,更那堪、冷落清秋节!
    今宵酒醒何处?杨柳岸、晓风残月。
    此去经年,应是良辰好景虚设。
    便纵有千种风情,更与何人说?
    April 14

    ·我想给我的灵魂找一条出路,也许路太远,没有归宿,但我只能前往。
    ·我总是以为自己是会对流失的时间和往事习惯的。不管在哪里,碰到谁。以什么样的方式结束。
    April 13

    你本是天使,从我看到你的那一刻起,我就一直相信。
    尘世间的纷纷扰扰已经让你不堪其烦。
    涅槃吧,像浴火的凤凰。
    让人们看看,骄傲的鸟儿怎能被命运束缚!

    你说:我们要在人生最辉煌的时刻重逢。

    我笑了。
    漫漫旅途数十载,小别又何妨?

    你总是带着这个年纪不该有的成熟与理智。

    但每当我在你身边,你却把这一切小心翼翼的收起,留在我记忆里的都是纯真与浪漫。
    高尚如你。

    一开始我聪明,结束我聪明,聪明的毁掉了我自己。

    我的灵魂已凋落,只有你能把碎片重归完整。
    谁来带我离开这条孤独的路,感受你的温度。
    I never had a dream come true. Still, never.

    我答应过要带你去天之涯,地之角。

    我们要一起看尽天下风景,日升月落,风起云涌。

    你说:我回来后只要愿意娶你你就一定会嫁给我。

    我知道你愿意,你知道我爱你。
    April 11

    【转载】乱弹——著名导演们的生活逸事

    1、斯坦利-库布里克:
    (1)在与妻子做爱的时候喜欢听诸如《欢乐颂
    》等的古典音乐。
    (2)在与妻子吵架的时候会说:我不想杀你,我他吗的只是想把你撕成碎片。
    (3)参加任何聚会,都坐出租车,穿斗篷,戴面具。
    (4)喜欢坐在空旷的大房间里面构思他的电影剧本。
    (5)家里边坐的沙发要鲜红色。
    (6)不喜欢坐飞机,如果一定要坐,他宁可叫飞机为“炸弹”。
    (7)总是幻想自己的老婆和一个军官在床上行苟且之事。
    (8)喜欢喝人奶,这个习惯一直保持到他死。

    2、北野武:
    (1)和妻子外出,一定要用一根红绳子栓住彼此,即使被木桩子绊住也不回头。
    (2)人家采访他,问他成功之道,他会简单的说一句:我是被发掘的。
    (3)蹲厕所大便的时候喜欢幻想,内容经常是与昨天与他吵嘴的邻居老太婆同归于尽,或者给楼下老头作一个阳具超大的模型挂在他们家窗口。
    (4)赌马的时候特别相信直觉,但往往运气很坏。
    (5)水性极差,但喜欢游泳,当然少不了有人随时准备给他做人工呼吸。
    (6)特别善于用筷子,我是说,用他突然插进你的眼睛或者鼻子什么地方。
    (7)喜欢在院子里挖陷阱,故意陷害老婆。
    (8)裤子从来不穿合身的,常常是肥大型,走路特别兜风的那种。
    (9)儿子问他要零用钱,他会说:我不信你没有钱,要不,你原地跳几下我看看。
    (10)当然,他最喜欢放烟火,各种各样的,然后和妻子一起看,最后放的总是两个响的——二踢脚。
    (11)小时侯经常跟妈妈去女浴室洗澡,所以,至今仍然不定期的想去光顾。
    (12)在片场拍片时,喜欢一个人坐在长椅上吃盒饭。
    (13)接受记者采访时,会酷酷的说:我就算成了大导演,还是要拼。

    3、陈果:
    (1)喜欢吃西瓜,而且要用刀子仔细的切成花瓣状。
    (2)攻击人家,要用事先包好的大便。
    (3)新买的所有衣服、鞋子、墨镜都不会撕掉标签,要一直戴着。
    (4)他所有的剧本构思都不写在纸上,而是写在皮革上,一般用比较便宜的猪皮。
    (5)喜欢唱“打炮歌”——结婚了吧,傻b了吧,以后赚钱两个人花,离婚了吧,傻b了吧,以后打炮买单了吧。
    (6)上厕所时喜欢带个苹果吃,如果不小心掉在厕所地上,也照吃不误。
    (7)喜欢吃肉馅的饺子,至于什么馅儿……。哎哎,他老婆这几天怎么不见了。
    (8)喜欢吃港产中秋牌月饼。

    4、张艺谋:
    (1)小便时喜欢找棵树,一有风吹草动,会直打激灵。
    (2)有人说他老了,腿脚不好,他会反驳:急了也能跑两步。
    (3)和老婆电话诉衷肠,会很直接的说:俄想你想的睡不卓。
    (4)睚眦必报,善使一把大菜刀。
    (5)会使用高科技产品,比如笔记本电脑,不过,他一般是用来砸人。
    (6)冬天穿着大棉裤,跑起来一拽一拽的,他会说这很有型。
    (7)从小喜欢跑到公共浴室,在墙上挖个洞看女生洗澡。
    (8)好酒,但酒品极差,经常在桌子上拉开拉链就洋洋洒洒。
    (9)极端仇恨日本人,是个民族主义者。
    (10)初恋女友叫“冬儿”,两人在一起经常喜欢玩泥巴,其实现在他仍然把夫人看作是“冬儿”的影子。

    5、姜文:
    (1)小时侯喜欢和小伙伴们骑着根棍子满胡同串,逢人就骂:傻b。
    (2)打架用板砖,砍人用菜刀,曾经有一把黑枪,但是丢了。
    (3)给人家讲某件事的经历,开场白总是:我出了门儿,过了街,出了门,过了街……。
    (4)特别欺软怕硬,但是总喜欢回家在镜子面前发狠,找回尊严。
    (5)小时侯喜欢玩气球,当然是象气球的一种橡胶制品。
    (6)别人问他干什么事情有劲没劲,他会突然怒吼一声:有劲!!
    (7)告诉别人一个秘密,会嘱咐人家:别说啊,烂肚子里也别说。
    (8)做爱时喜欢开灯,要看个清楚才罢休。
    (9)小时侯有点结巴,不过在一次玩耍从烟囱上跳下来摔了一下后就来好了。
    (10)有个秘密情人,叫“阿春”。

    6、杜琪峰:
    (1)经常背地里对电影公司老板发牢骚:靠,这样的人,还要叫他老板。
    (2)和人家吵架,会恶狠狠的说:吃屎吧你!!
    (3)探望一个大病初愈的人,出来时会说:这样都死不了?
    (4)从来不主动请客吃饭,他的理由是:吃东西不用给钱啊?
    (5)耐心很差,总是在做事情的时候发脾气,说:快去把这件事情搞定吧!
    (6)不高兴说话的时候,喜欢吃花生。
    (7)教训儿子,会指着他脸上的胎记说,这是什么东西,给我擦掉!
    (8)有的时候十分理性,口头禅总是:规矩就是规矩,要是让我知道谁坏了规矩,不管是五年,十年,都要他付出代价。
    (9)私生活偶尔会出轨,但总是理直气壮,对身边的人申辩说:她有没有勾引过你,她有勾引过我啊。
    (10)会很严肃的看着一条狗,说:“我知道,你前世是个警察。”
    (11)当然,他也有个情人,叫小翠。

    【转载】追忆似水年华

      Can it really be sixty-two years ago that I first saw you?
      It is truly a lifetime, I know. But as I gaze into your eyes now, it seems like only yesterday that I first saw you, in that small café in Hanover Square.
      From the moment I saw you smile, as you opened the door for that young mother and her newborn baby. I knew. I knew that I wanted to share the rest of my life with you.
      I still think of how foolish I must have looked, as I gazed at you, that first time. I remember watching you intently, as you took off your hat and loosely shook your short dark hair with your fingers. I felt myself becoming immersed in your every detail, as you placed your hat on the table and cupped your hands around the hot cup of tea, gently blowing the steam away with your pouted lips.
      From that moment, everything seemed to make perfect sense to me. The people in the café and the busy street outside all disappeared into a hazy blur. All I could see was you.
      All through my life I have relived that very first day. Many, many times I have sat and thought about that the first day, and how for a few fleeting moments I am there, feeling again what is like to know true love for the very first time. It pleases me that I can still have those feelings now after all those years, and I know I will always have them to comfort me.
      Not even as I shook and trembled uncontrollably in the trenches, did I forget your face. I would sit huddled into the wet mud, terrified, as the hails of bullets and mortars crashed down around me. I would clutch my rifle tightly to my heart, and think again of that very first day we met. I would cry out in fear, as the noise of war beat down around me. But, as I thought of you and saw you smiling back at me, everything around me would be become silent, and I would be with you again for a few precious moments, far from the death and destruction. It would not be until I opened my eyes once again, that I would see and hear the carnage of the war around me.
      I cannot tell you how strong my love for you was back then, when I returned to you on leave in the September, feeling battered, bruised and fragile. We held each other so tight I thought we would burst. I asked you to marry me the very same day and I whooped with joy when you looked deep into my eyes and said "yes" to being my bride.
      I'm looking at our wedding photo now, the one on our dressing table, next to your jeweler box. I think of how young and innocent we were back then. I remember being on the church steps grinning like a Cheshire cat, when you said how dashing and handsome I looked in my uniform. The photo is old and faded now, but when I look at it, I only see the bright vibrant colors of our youth. I can still remember every detail of the pretty wedding dress your mother made for you, with its fine delicate lace and pretty pearls. If I concentrate hard enough, I can smell the sweetness of your wedding bouquet as you held it so proudly for everyone to see.
      I remember being so over enjoyed, when a year later, you gently held my hand to your waist and whispered in my ear that we were going to be a family.
      I know both our children love you dearly; they are outside the door now, waiting.
      Do you remember how I panicked like a mad man when Jonathon was born? I can still picture you laughing and smiling at me now, as I clumsily held him for the very first time in my arms. I watched as your laughter faded into tears, as I stared at him and cried my own tears of joy.
      Sarah and Tom arrived this morning with little Tessie. Can you remember how we both hugged each other tightly when we saw our tiny granddaughter for the first time? I can't believe she will be eight next month. I am trying not to cry, my love, as I tell you how beautiful she looks today in her pretty dress and red shiny shoes, she reminds me so much of you that first day we met. She had her hair cut short now, just like yours was all those years ago. When I met her at the door her smile wrapped around me like a warm glove, just like yours used to do, my darling.
      I know you are tired, my dear, and I must let you go. But I love you so much and it hurts to do so.
      As we grew old together, I would tease you that you had not changed since we first met. But it is true, my darling. I do not see the wrinkles and grey hair that other people see. When I look at you now, I only see your sweet tender lips and youthful sparkling eyes as we sat and had out first picnic next to that small stream, and chased each other around that big old oak tree. I remember wishing those first few days together would last forever. Do you remember how exciting and wonderful those days were?
      I must go now, my darling. Our children are waiting outside. They want to say goodbye to you.
      I wipe the tears away from my eyes and bend my frail old legs down to the floor, so that I can kneel beside you. I lean close to you and take hold of your hand and kiss your tender lips for the very last time.
      Sleep peacefully my dear.
      I am sad that you had to leave me, but please don't worry. I am content, knowing I will be with you soon. I am too old and too empty now to live much longer without you.
      I know it won't be long before we meet again in the small café in Hanover Square.
      Goodbye, my darling wife.